Been having issues with Stoat and thats disappointing. But new app has been making the rounds called Fluxer. It has the same setup as Discord / Stoat but does have premium features.
Thus far I really like it. But there is a 2000 character limit per message in the free tier. And they ask for your birthdate. You can always lie but annoying they ask.
You can host your own instance and it’s open source!
If interested let me know love to grow the friends list!