Sometimes I feel like my fedi feed is 50% "People need to stop harassing volunteer devs who give up their free time to maintaining software for you" and 50% "Wow I wish someone could tell this person on GitHub what a jerk they are".

I'm not saying these necessarily come from the same accounts but it seems to represent a collective dissonance. It's important to understand that the definition of harassment is not dependent on whether you are right or wrong.